On Trusting Yourself Again
Hello beautiful being,
Sometimes a variety of things can cast us out to sea.
A sudden transition, fear, a new role, stress, or simply trying to keep up with your life.
When we’ve been away from ourselves for too long, the train tracks can often be set to following and hearing a voice that, well, isn’t quite your own.
Here’s the great news…
No matter how long you’ve felt out of touch with that part of you that knows, you can reconnect.
Awareness is the first step, and I’ll break down the rest of the process below.
But first, let’s take a minute to acknowledge what prevents us from trusting ourselves. Most women have in fact been taught to distrust themselves, and instead to rely heavily on their partners, and any other voice around them. This confused and misplaced power serves a population that looks to gain it (patriarchal structures). What a relief it is to know that it’s not your fault. It’s been handed to you, and now you get to place it down, and come back home to you.
The process to deepen self-trust
Step 1: Awareness
If you can name that you question your intuitive pulls, ask others before you ask yourself, doubt what you feel is right, and generally let others lead, then you can begin the journey back to unshakeable trust. Awareness is a powerful thing.
I love to take note of what I feel is true, or something I’m being called to. You may like to create a list of pings.
Step 2: Find the Courage o Follow
What follows next is courage. Taking that first step to follow, carry out or try something you are drawn by. It doesn’t need to be performative, it just needs to feel important and real for you.
Step 3: Get Support Along the Way
From here, the next component to this process is something I’ve seen make the difference between building that trust or re-starting again 7 months down the road — that is support. Do you know someone who can hold you accountable? Who you can share an intuitive nudge with and the step you’re going to take to follow it? Is there a space where you can sit with other women and practice hearing your inner voice and how it speaks to you? This bridges the gap.
Step 4: Move With Devotion
The final piece of the process is devotion. This once again is not performative. It’s you getting clear on what your inner self is saying, and continuing to step forward to carve your new path, which gets easier to walk the more you practice following it. Devotion means being willing to hear your inner knowing, not needing it to make logical sense, not questioning it, but rather honouring it’s wisdom and moving with it, letting it bring you miracles and joy that you didn’t see coming. This is where the magic really has potential to find you.
Devotion also has a feminine quality to it, so it does not mean forcing or moving at all costs, rather it means allowing your flow and rhythm to guide you and giving yourself permission to honour what is alive within you in any given moment.
Step 5: Notice What Happens
Self-trust develops as you take one action at a time from your intuition and feel the positive outcome. This encourages you to do so again, again, and again.
And when you trip up and follow someone else’s guidance over your own, because in my experience that will happen, you are human after all, you will start to notice how things don’t “work out” for you and how you feel from that place.
Be gentle with yourself, and let this be an unfolding.
Take it from my client, Jenna
When Jenna came to see me, she was feeling an incredible amount of fear in following what she felt was her path. This was because it brought about uncertainty, newness and a level of self-connection that would require more depth. After a few weeks, with support, she started seeing the inner voice and said yes to it, more and more.
Over time,
“I don’t know.”
“I’m scared.”
“I feel so lost.”
turned into
“I keep feeling the pull to xyz.”
“I heard the words, ‘go here.’”
“My voice told me _____.”
“It was so random but I felt like I had to ____.”
And suddenly that turned into,
“I feel a strong sense of living inside of me.”
“I feel that I’m on my path.”
“I’m so aligned with my intuition, everything connects.”
“I’m so proud of myself and even more confident now that my inner voice is leading me to extraordinary, soul-aligned places.”
“I’m so in joy, it’s indescribable, it feels so good, and I trust that inner voice now, and it’s amazing where it leads me. It’s actually really big and I feel it.”
Jenna’s experience reminds me of the powerful importance of allowing yourself to follow your inner voice, no matter how random, and especially how random, it feels at first. And just how incredible receiving and feeling the positive outcome of doing so is. An indescribable joy. Ahhhhh, who doesn’t want that? I know I do.
Rinse and repeat. As you acknowledge when you’re out at sea, make an effort to hear your pings, muster the courage to act on them, get support as you do, and move with devotion through this process, the cycle repeats and the self-trust builds.
The key steps:
Hear your intuition
Courage to follow and act on it
Get support as you journey
Move with devotion
Notice the positive outcome
Feel incredible joy and ease
Repeat
If you follow this process, your self-trust muscle will grow.
I am always in awe of how powerful and joyful a life led by intuition truly is.
And perhaps that's why I care so deeply about supporting women in strengthening their relationship with their inner knowing. I've seen how much changes when we stop looking outside ourselves for the answers and start trusting what already lives within.
If you'd like support as you deepen your own self-trust and connection to your intuition, I'd be truly honoured to explore what that could look like together.
I have 3 spots open for 1:1 coaching right now. The first step is simply jumping on a call to connect and chat.
Sending love,
Jessie
