Returning to Yourself
The process, what it feels like, and what opens up on the other side
In our world of constant to-do’s, her remarkably brave ferocity says, “no thanks”.
She’s very clear about that.
Despite any wavering that came when she first chose herself, she now stands clear, centered, and tall, from within.
These are the qualities of women who return home. Who reclaim their sovereignty, who choose what brings them joy; not what’s expected or what’s easier. They choose what lights them up and what allows them to live renewed, where they wake up feeling possibility instead of questioning or dread.
The Tipping Point
This process is not a cake walk.
I know, because I’ve been there more than once.
What I want to talk about today is the tipping point — where you choose differently. Where your agency and fire return.
For me, that moment came with a bit of help from the Universe (as it almost always does). I was resisting leaving something that was keeping me from myself due to looping overthinking, but mostly because of real emotions like fear, shame and guilt. It turns out, all of it came from the outside. After months, I had no choice but to walk away, as my tipping point came from my health deteriorating until I had no choice but to look and to choose differently.
Perhaps you can think back to your own tipping point, or even be there right now.
This past Sunday, during an event I was co-facilitating, I heard women who spoke to that moment that they are actively journeying towards. Later today, I’m meeting a friend who had this moment only a couple weeks ago.
It doesn’t always need to be intense and wild - but it most certainly can be. And your reclamation of what is true (for you) can be wild and purposeful, too.
The Process
This is not a re-inventing, it’s a coming inward to hear yourself deeper and cultivate unshakeable self-trust. It’s honouring your needs before others. It’s feeling emotions as they arise and noticing any resistance but being in conversation with it, such as asking why it’s here and offering it some gentleness, so you can move into what is calling you.
I use the word “reconnect” very intentionally. This is not about becoming someone new. You already know yourself. You know, in your bones, what feels true and what doesn't. This work is remembering.
The process takes intention. It takes showing up. We show up every day for things that live outside of ourselves. This process is about coming to turn that attention inward.
It also takes the courage to try. To not know but to say, “I feel the pull to this and that is enough. I will listen to myself”.
It often takes community, someone reflecting back to you what you cannot yet see in yourself. We aren’t meant to be alone on our journey. The power and potency you offer yourself when you can lean on other women who get it, is truly unlike anything else.
There are days where you simply need to rest. Where you move with slowness, and where you say, “This is enough”. Other days you are moving energy, taking action and clearing out what lies in the way. All of it is part of the process, and honouring yourself as you go is the thread that makes this all possible.
How Does It Actually Feel?
I led a group of women this weekend in a mini retreat. The intention was connection to themselves, the land and each other. When we feel that we have the structure, the holding space, and the opportunity to lean back and be held, so much softens and opens at the same time. There’s access to a place in your heart that you often keep in a box or behind closed walls. There’s a serenity that overcomes your entire being, a peacefulness that whispers “just be”. You feel warmth move through you in ways that allow for you to be in gentle contentment.
These are just some of the words and experiences that both came from the women this weekend, and that come from women in my community all the time.
Simplicity, openness, grounding, connection and self-trust.
What Becomes Possible
When inner security and self-trust lead, you stop dog-paddling. You own where you are and where you’re being called to go. And you know that you are deeply supported as you journey.
You don’t let external noise make its way to your core. Your spirit is what leads you, not someone else’s anxiety or agenda.
What opens is a life that you feel lit up by, a journey that despite any challenge, feels purposeful, meaningful and right on time.
You start living for yourself, from the inside out, instead of taking the external chaos in. You feel the emotions, move with women who are right there with you, and let your inner guidance lead.
This is not a fantasy. I’ve done it, and so have many other women.
This is what’s possible for you, if you have the courage to let yourself lead.
I'll be right there with you in it.
Ready to be in a room with other women who are choosing themselves?
Join the Holding Space, a virtual Women's Circle on May 14.
About Jessie Bri
Jessie is a Women’s Reconnection Coach who supports heart-led, purpose-driven women in coming back to themselves. Her work centers on helping women step out of autopilot, reconnect with their inner voice, and build a deep sense of self-trust that guides how they live, lead, and choose.
Blending life coaching, mindfulness, self-compassion, and energy work, Jessie creates spaces where women can slow down, be witnessed, and hear themselves clearly again. Her approach is both intuitive and practical—supporting clients not just in understanding what they need, but in actually living it.
Through her coaching, women move from overthinking, people-pleasing, and self-doubt into grounded confidence, inner safety, and a way of living that feels spacious, aligned, and fully their own.
